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Y ou know, being called weird, extra, or just plain too much used to throw me for a loop, especially because it was said in such a negative tone and disposition. I’d find myself asking, “If you think so little of me, why are you even around? Why call me for advice or share your secrets?” Talk about confusing! But let me tell you, I’ve come to realize that those labels are actually compliments. They simply mean I’m one of a kind—so thanks for that! Let me share a little story that perfectly illustrates this. I was at a party once when the cake came out, and I noticed it was starting to get a bit… well, sweaty. So, I casually mentioned, “Hey, the cake is starting to have condensation.” Enter Kay, who shot back with a condescending tone, “Girl, you mean it’s sweating!” I was puzzled. We were essentially saying the same thing, right? But then again, Kay loved to be the life of the party, and apparently, that meant making fun of me. When I responded with a smile, “Yes, basically,” she continued, “No one taught you that when you were little?” Cue the laughter from the room. But here’s the kicker: I was genuinely confused. I hadn’t been taught that cakes “sweat,” but I do know what condensation means. I stood my ground and replied, “Well, I know condensation means water vapor in the air is changing into liquid.” Kay’s face twisted with anger as she declared, “You’re so extra, and it’s not cute.” Once again, confusion set in. Just minutes earlier, she was calling me cute! In that moment, I realized something profound: trying to satisfy others is exhausting. It’s a classic case of “damned if you do, damned if you don’t.” And honestly? I’m unapologetically me, quirks and all. If Kay needed to target me to feel better about herself, so be it. I decided to laugh it off and wink at her, smiling big and bright. The truth is, everyone laughing at me didn’t shake me; it only reinforced the idea that hurt people hurt people. I refused to stoop to that level. Instead, I chose to protect my energy with positivity. Trust me on this—choosing yourself makes everything fall into place. As for that cake? I didn’t eat it. After all, I only indulge in Misha’s Cakes because I love me and all my “extraness.” I once read a quote that resonated with me: “If I’m too much, go find less.” I don’t know who wrote it, but it’s a mantra I live by—and it’s one I think everyone should adopt. So, here’s to being a little extra! Embrace your quirks and remember that the right people will love you just as you are. Choose you, and let the rest fall into place!

W hether you're in a relationship, single, or somewhere in between, one thing remains true—you are still you . Amazing, worthy, and deserving of love in all its forms. Let’s talk about love—the highs, the heartbreaks, the breakups, the makeups, and everything in between. Love, whether romantic or platonic, is complicated. Social media, TV couples, and happy pairs walking hand in hand can make being single feel like a personal failure. Like you're somehow missing out. But here’s the truth: you are not lacking . Being single is not a curse, nor is it a waiting room for love. It is a time to grow, to understand yourself, to cherish friendships, and to love yourself deeply. You are not incomplete. You are whole. And the love that is meant for you—if and when it comes—will only add to the life you’ve already built, not complete it. But let’s also give love its flowers. Because being in love, sharing a deep, meaningful connection, and choosing someone every single day is beautiful . Being lucky enough to have a person to share your time, your days, your life with—that is something special. A healthy, fulfilling relationship is not just about romance, but about partnership, respect, and growth. It’s about finding someone who sees you, understands you, and walks beside you through all of life’s seasons. So, whether you’re happily single, deeply in love, or figuring it all out—know this: you are exactly where you need to be . There is no race. No timeline. No right or wrong way to experience love. What matters is that the love in your life—whether it’s self-love, romantic love, or the love of those who truly see you—is real, meaningful, and fulfilling. Love is not just about finding  the right person. It’s about being  the right person—for yourself first, and for others if and when the time comes. So, here’s to love in all its forms. The kind that grows, the kind that teaches, the kind that stays. And most importantly, the kind that starts within.

H ave you ever found yourself drawn to someone who you know deep down is not right for you? Perhaps you invest your time and emotions into relationships that you know are doomed to fail. The question that often arises is: Why do we do this to ourselves? Are we gluttons for punishment, or could it be that we are low-key masochists? The reality is more complex than it seems. Hurt People Hurt People The simple truth is that hurt people tend to hurt others, and that indeed includes hurting oneself. Our minds struggle to differentiate between the direct experience of pain and the indirect feeling of it. It is about the familiarity of pain, the twisted comfort it brings, and the peculiar ways by which some find instant gratification or try to fill emotional voids. The Vicious Cycle By subjecting ourselves to relationships with unavailable partners or toxic situations, we perpetuate a cycle of self-inflicted pain and emotional turmoil. It's like a dysfunctional dance where we know the steps all too well: embracing the wrong person, reliving past traumas, and ultimately self-sabotaging any chance of true happiness. Playing the Victim Sometimes, we find ourselves playing the victim in our own lives, even though we are the ones making the choices that lead to our own suffering. It's a paradoxical scenario where we simultaneously hurt ourselves while seeking solace in the agony, almost as if we thrive on the intensity of the pain. Breaking the Chains of Self-Destruction To break free from this destructive pattern, we must confront the root causes of our self-destructive behaviors. It starts with a conscious decision to forgive ourselves and love fiercely. We owe it to ourselves to choose self-compassion over self-sabotage, to cherish our well-being over momentary relief. The Path to Healing Choosing to pursue healthier relationships with individuals who are emotionally available and supportive is a crucial step towards healing. It's about recognizing our worth, setting boundaries, and learning to prioritize our own needs and happiness above all else. Embracing Self-Love Ultimately, the path to self-discovery and growth begins with self-love. It's a journey of unraveling the tangled web of past hurts and insecurities, and replacing them with acceptance, compassion, and empowerment. It's about acknowledging that we deserve better, that we are worthy of genuine love and respect. In the end, the choice lies within each of us. We have the power to break free from the chains of self-destructive patterns and embrace a future filled with love, joy, and fulfillment. It's time to redefine our narratives, rewrite our stories, and reclaim our power. So, let's make the bold choice to love ourselves fiercely and let go of the destructive cycles that bind us. It's a journey worth taking, a leap worth making, and a transformation waiting to happen. Let’s embrace healing instead of hurt, self-worth over self-sabotage, and embark on a beautiful journey to self-love and freedom. Remember, you are worthy, you are enough, and you deserve all the love and happiness in the world.